I was on facebook recently, and some girl (I’m really trying not to use mean words right now) said the following “Okay okay so I know everyone hates to hear the truth and gets so easily offended but logically can we just stop the “big is beautiful” BS? More than 40-50 pounds overweight is NOT caused by most diseases and it is NOT healthy. Yes, love your insides and personality all that. But don’t settle into acceptance of this growing American epidemic. Kbai.” And I full understand her opinion, but she went on to say things like hypothyroidism does not make it super difficult to lose weight, and all weight problems are the people’s individual faults and people need to get off their lazy ass and we as people need to stop supporting the efforts to accept all women.
First, I’m all for promoting health. I’m a medical student - people’s health is the upmost importance to me, so I do understand the epidemic of obesity. But, her responses to her status really piss me off because let me tell you this.
In our society, we don’t accept big. We don’t accept fat and we don’t believe anything besides skinny and mini is beautiful. Look at all our ads and look on tv. GIVE ME ONE TV SHOW OR ROMANTIC COMEDY where the lead role is a regular/plus sized woman. We’re taught that our appearance means so much, that more girls today suffer from an eating disorder than ever before. I am a recovering bulimic myself, and I struggle everyday to accept my body and accept the possibility that someone will love me for my size and appearance. And I was taught that if I were skinnier, if I could fit into a smaller size, then I would be better, more beautiful, and people would love me more.
I do agree that we need to be healthier as a society - teach healthy habits and have our kids learn the benefits as exercise. But, I would also say if you weigh a few extra pounds - even 40 from “normal,” and you exercise and eat healthy. GO YOU!! It’s fine. Don’t worry. Be a healthy size, that doesn’t mean a size 2. Be a size 10 or 16. But be healthy. Eat healthy. Exercise and have a healthy mentality.
I know a lot of people that suffer from hypothyroidism and PCOS. And I know how extraordinarily hard it is to lose weight because your body doesn’t work the same way as everyone. Your metabolism doesn’t work the same. It means to lose weight, you have to work 5 times as hard as the normal individual. Do you understand how frustrating that can be? Because I do. Before I was diagnosed with PCOS, I would gain weight every week and I’d exercise and I’d wouldn’t eat bad cards or sugar or anything fried. So from someone who ate healthily and tried to exercise, NOTHING CHANGED!! And then someone goes on tell me that society shouldn’t accept how I look. BULLSHIT.
Let me tell you this. Being fat is the one things I hate. I don’t know how to accept myself. People can see you’re fat - that’s the first thing they see. Most other things you can hide. You can hide you’re a huge jerk, that you have a life-threatening disease, that you’re a drug addict or an alcoholic. But you can’t hide that you’re fat. It’s impossible. And the worse thing is that they’ll judge you immediately. They don’t know that you work out, that you eat healthy, that you struggle from eat disorders and disorders that make it hard to lose weight - not impossible but harder than normal. They don’t understand your struggles to fit in and how much it has hardened you and how jaded you’ve become because society won’t fucking accept you.
So why can’t this girl be like LET’S STOP POPULARIZING DRUGS AND ALCOHOL. Because let me tell you this - smoking is the leading cause of most cancers. And that is something preventable. Alcohol - do you know how many alcohol poisoning cases happen a year? Do you know what longtime use of alcohol can cause? A LOT. That’s a whole different rant. And you know what’s the sad thing. Society still plays out drinking and smoking as the cool thing to do. We accept it. It’s on tv and it’s in movies. They all smoke and drink and party. And they’re not reprimanded about their actions. They’re not told they’re not beautiful and that society won’t accept them. They’re told to DO IT AND HAVE FUN because everyone will want to be you.
But being bigger?!?! We’re told to be a size 6 or smaller. We’re shown the “perfect” female body and told be that nothing else is acceptable. We are not accepted. We are not loved by society. When do you ever see a naked “fat” woman and be like SHE IS SO BEAUTIFUL. SHE IS SEXY. We don’t. We’re taught to look at women’s body in a way that is not useful to us.
SO I SAY. Let the Big is Beautiful campaign continue. Because society needs to change what is beautiful. Society needs to say EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL. We need to be taught that a size 14 is okay. And we need to teach people more about healthy habits than appearance. Because I want to feel okay. I want to feel like I won’t be judged for my appearance. Because when society tells us no one will ever love a big girl, that means I can’t even love myself.